Sons to Men - A Mother's Guide
Follow Anne's clear, accessible and logical process and begin to minimize the turbulence of raising your son. Most importantly, learn how to relax and enjoy your boy's transition to manhood now, when it's happening — don't spend these precious years as a confused, angry and frustrated casualty.
Excerpt from "Sons To Men – A Mother's Guide"
Even if you can actually cognitively trick yourself into believing that he might be OK during daylight hours, nothing and I mean nothing will convince you of it at 1am and he is still not home when you agreed he would be.
Nothing prepares you for the reactions you will have when you find out he's not where he said he would be:
- Cold sweat forms on your forehead as you recall recent youth statistics and you strain to hear his footsteps.
- Fear will grip and twist your gut and scramble your thoughts until your tea is shaken out of the mug you hold.
- You will pace or clean or tremble your way past the telephone desperate to hear his voice.
- You will clutch your cellphone, get in the car, get out again, walk the streets, get in the car again and drive to parties and shout his name, embarrass yourself and not care a damn.
- You will want to accuse, blame, shout and scream. You will worry, and, weep and beg all the Gods you have ever heard of to keep him safe.
And when he walks in the door, you will want to kill him with your bare hands … you will grow strong, not by fighting your thoughts and emotions but through acknowledging and working with the very force of them. You will develop such compassion for yourself as a woman and a mother that you will be a vital loving force for your son and your family.
You are a powerful woman.
If you are not fully aware of that yet, your developing son and I will be the gurus who hold the mirror.
"Sons to Men - A Mother's Guide" is available in good bookstores
I felt you were talking to me! It's wonderful, practical, relevant, empowering.
Kathryn via email
Hi Anne Just sitting on Coronet Peak reading your book. I'm so enjoying it. I see lots of me in it. I'm glad I have time to take it all in. Just finished pg 60,61 and nearly wet my pants laughing.
V. via txt
I'm three quarters of the way through your book already and I know I'm going to miss it when it's all over. Its definitely one that I will treasure and come back to when I need to remind myself of how to 'be'... I cannot express how much I have enjoyed it (and I don't even have a son!).
Nicole via email
I could just about write a book myself saying how much I loved your book... there are numerous things in it that I can relate to and that will help me and how I think you are right on the money with your thoughts and experiences of teenage boys and the mother having to step up with her skills and responsibilities.
Your book made me laugh and it made me cry and I loved it! I feel so much more confident with a few changes in my thoughts actions and feelings, that instead of dreading the teenage years I could in fact enjoy them!
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